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Bondage!
- The Escape From Freedom
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Your week has been tough. It seems that every member of your family needs your attention. In the office,
nothing moves without your input or approval. Throughout your day you make decision after decision which not
only effect your life, but those around you and many people that you don't even know. You are a person of power
and responsibility. You are a person that has the freedom to do what you want, when you want, but...only if it
fits into the scope of the role you play that others rely on you so much for.
I call this the freedom of responsibility. It often feels more like a yoke which binds you to a heavy cart. As
heavy a load as it may be to tow at times, you really wouldn't trade places with a person with lesser responsibility
because this is who you are. A person that loves the family that depends on you and is fulfilled by the work that you
do. But, every once in a while, you wish you could escape and take a break from it all. Wouldn't it be so nice to
have someone make the decisions and relieve you from making them? Inside, you know that it would only happen if you
were
prevented from taking the bull by the horns and getting
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things moving. That's just who you are, a mover and a shaker!
One of the things many people like about bondage is how it makes them slow down and how it takes the responsibility
of making decisions away from them. When they are tightly bound up, there can be no expectations of them to decide
or manage the world around them. They are helpless and another is in control. There are no mistakes to be made, no
evaluations that need be considered, and no real risks of failure. They have escaped from the freedom to move and act
as they see fit and have been temporarily evicted from the responsibilities and pressures of their life.
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There are many different ways of placing someone in bondage. The actual instrument of bondage is important. Some
people get really turned on by the use of rope for instance, or leather, chain/metal, plastic wrap, etc. What is
used to bind them up appeases their fetish appetite also if they have a rope, leather, or chain fetish for example.
If you're really into leather, rope just doesn't get it and vise, versa. But, what goes beyond that is how the bondage
is felt or what it symbolizes. Bondage does more than just hold a person in place.
The first thing that we want to think of when we use bondage is what do we want to accomplish? Are we just looking
to keep someone still so that they can't get around the room or do we want to completely immobolize them?
Are we looking to hold them fast to a spanking bench so that they have to remain still enough to receive a crop or
cane? The purpose here is to force the person to experience the intense stimulation.
Do we want the submissive to be completely restrained so that even the slightest movement is, at best, a great
effort and they are wrapped up in leather or something else so that they experience the sensation of being held in
a cocoon or the womb? This is actually comforting to many subs, to be cocooned. We might add a gag, a blindfold,
or ear plugs etc., to completely cut off all of the sensations
and detach the submissive from their environment. We call this sensory deprivation, and it is very effective in
rendering not just the physical body immobile, but also in suspending intellect and emotions into a place of limbo.
The purpose of this kind of bondage is completely different from that above, provided we leave the sub untouched. If
we decide to flog the sub, or use any other intense tactile stimulation, the effect is quite different, in fact even
more intense than just strapping them to a spanking bench. Because all of their senses are restrained, the tactile
sense is amplified greatly.
Everybody doesn't like to be bound up really tight and every situation doesn't lend itself to tight bondage. Maybe,
the purpose in bondage is to 'park' someone. That is, to put them somewhere and just have them stay there. Kind of
just keeps them out from under your foot. Using wrist and ankle cuffs and restraining them to a chair or the wall
might work just fine.
Restraining someone so that they are exposed for torture, like on their knees with their ass in the air, is good.
Maybe the purpose is to humiliate them and then you might want them on their back with their legs apart so people can
use their
crotch to wipe the bottoms of dirty shoes on. Sounds extreme, I know, and many subs love being treated this way in
roleplay sessions or on a daily basis by their Mistress owner. Being so humiliated allows them to escape their own intellect,
thoughts, fears, anxieties, whatever, by challenging the ego. They can be something so not what they are so to speak, and it
becomes like a mini mental vacation. Most men need to take a "mental health day" off from work to go see their Mistress
and totally escape the pressures of the daily grind. Variety is the spice........
I'll often use bondage not to keep someone from moving around, but to make movement more difficult for them while
they are doing chores or some simple task. Using leather cuffs that are connected by a short chain makes even opening
a kitchen cupboard door difficult. It requires raising both hands together to remove cups and plates, etc., one at a
time and with great care. This intensely focuses their attention on their servitude to me, makes them feel clumsy,
and really
turns a simple task into a major project. They cease being quick and limber which challenges their ego. It's
actually a mild form of humiliation. It also really helps to provide the sub with the mental "escape" from their regular routine. It is hard
to think about what you need to do at the office when you are focusing so intently on trying to get the cups and saucers out
of the cupboard without dropping and breaking them.
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There are times when I may not want them restrained at all, but just having cuffs, a harness, or a collar on them.
This is a form of physiological bondage, and is also, I feel, quite decorative and attractive! They can definitely
feel the restraints, yet they have full movement of all their limbs. With this, the bondage equipment acts as a symbol
of their servitude, which places them in a strong emotional position within your control. There are so many other ways
that one can be restrained. Just using a gag is a form of bondage. It prevents the sub from talking, hence, puts them
in a psychological position of submission. Using a leather or rubber hood does much the same, except it has a way
of dehumanizing them by concealing their facial features and expressions. Many new Mistresses feel much more comfortable
dominating their first submissives if the sub has a hood on to objectify him and also a blindfold so that he cannot
see her mistakes or hesitancy or clumsiness perhaps, as she experiments on him with new toys for the first time. This was
one of my tricks anyway, when I was a just beginning to learn how to dominate.
Using straight jackets, cages, stocks, and other restraining devices just adds to the many colors of power you have
on your bondage palette. Each has it's own unique character and can be used for many different reasons, in many different
ways.
Suspending someone in bondage is almost in a class by itself. When using suspension we are completely lifting
the submissive off of the floor which takes away any possibility to escape from whatever devilish intent I may
have for them. Suspension really increases the submissive's feelings of vulnerability and helplessness.
Whatever the way and whatever the purpose, learning and practicing good bondage techniques is critical for BDSM play.
It adds greatly to the flexibility and creativity that can make every scene have it's own unique flavor.
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