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But It Hurts!
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Now with pain, there is often something that happens which gives us the 'high'
feeling that we call 'Sub-Space.' There are natural drugs in our body lumped
into what laymen call endorphins These are pain reducing chemicals that the
body uses to help us cope with pain. They are normally released when the body
is experiencing a higher than normal degree of pain. In other words, more
pain than you get from a small cut or stubbing your toe. When endorphins are
released into your system and become active, they act similar to morphine,
except they are safe.
Long
distance runners get the same endorphin high as does the masochist. The difference
is the source of the pain. That's why runners often say they get a 'Runners
High' when they are accustomed to working out often and for long periods
of time. The endorphins are released from the body and give them a calm, mellow
feeling.
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Now, I can imagine that someone out there is going to say that all of this adds
up to a reason not to practice BDSM or long-distance running. These natural
drugs in your body will addict you, right? Well, maybe. But who cares, you
own them, they are safe and you don't have to break the law or do destructive
things to your life to enjoy them. In fact, they are safer than getting a beer
buzz, and you don't suffer a hang-over the next day, just a sore bottom! If the
practice that you perform to produce the pain is done in a safe and sane manner,
and does not cause critical injury, the risk to your body is much
safer than drinking too much alcohol or even running 10 miles.
There are no universals as to how pain affects the body. Not all pain is good
pain to all people. Some love being whipped or caned, but hate CBT (cock and
ball torture). I have seen men take intense CBT, yet just about pass out if
you put a clothes pin on their nipple. What pain is desirable to each individual
is a matter of the differing chemistry of their bodies, and the subjective likes
and dislikes of those that receive it. What is more, everyone has different
tolerances with pain and different thresholds when the endorphins
are released. Sometimes, I use pain as a reward because the slave is a real
pain slut and other times I use it as a punishment, if the sub isn't really
into pain much. Some people like really intense pain from the get go, others
you have to bring up slowly into sub-space before intensifying a beating.
I have also noticed that sometimes, administering one kind of pain producing practice will get a sub
going into sub-space, but switching to another type of pain producing activity a little later will really
rocket them
into it. I have come to believe that different kinds of pain release different
kinds of pain relieving chemicals into the body. Sharp blows of a cane, or
whacks from a wood paddle, produce one kind of sub-space, where prolonged
use of clips and clamps produce another, deeper sub-space. Again though, it's
up to the individual's body chemistry. It cannot be a 'cookie cutter' formula. Every submissive is different.
Another aspect of pain is how the experience of pain presents an opportunity for the sub
to let loose and surrender. I have often noticed that most people want to stiffen
up and brace themselves each time they receive a blow from a whip, cane, paddle
or crop. It's like they are trying to fight the pain so that it doesn't win
some battle between them and their dignity. If they let go and scream, maybe
it might show ( in their mind ) that they aren't tough enough, or resilient enough to withstand
a good beating. It's like they are saying, I want to be submissive, but I
want to hold onto some control as well. If I don't break down and scream or
cry, I'm still in control.
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There is something that happens when a submissive finally breaks down
and allows themselves the real experience of pain without trying to resist
it. Their body relaxes and their breathing slows down. They tend to vocalize
the agony they are feeling with each bite of the whip. They seem to be at
a place in their mind where they truly accept the pain and become enmeshed
in it.
I call this true surrender.
This is when they become truly submissive and reach an elevated stage of sub-space. It doesn't happen
all of the time. It takes the right moment coupled with the right attitude from both the sub and the Domme.
When it does happen though, the energy is obvious and the sensation of
bliss goes far beyond the moment in the dungeon. Days later I will hear that they are still feeling mellow
and almost in a dream-like state. It's as if I have literally beaten the stress right out of them.
All in all, enjoying pain is one of the paradoxical mysteries of BDSM. We
love the hurt and turn what is usually known as agony into pleasure. Yes,
being beaten with a cane, or whatever, hurts. It may hurt like hell, particularly
at the moment of impact, but what comes because of the pain is well worth
the price.
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